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Stick to what you can prove

The fastest way to lose a judge's trust is to say something you can't back up. The fastest way to earn it is to be careful.

  • About 2 minread
  • General ideashold in most courts
  • Checked October 26, 2026educational only
The short version

Separate what you know from what you believe or suspect. State what you can show with a paper, a record, or your own direct knowledge. Say clearly when you are not sure.

Three buckets

  • I know it: I saw it, I signed it, I have the paper.
  • I was told it: someone said so. Say who and when.
  • I suspect it: it seems likely to me, but I can't show it. Be honest about that, or leave it out.

Habits that build trust

  • Attach or point to the paper that shows each important fact.
  • Keep dates exact. If you're unsure, say “on or about.”
  • Correct your own mistakes quickly and plainly.
  • Don't accuse anyone of wrongdoing unless you can show it with records.

Being careful isn't weakness. It is what makes the strong parts of your case believable.

New York specificallySee New York guides on records and proof →Read the New York version. Pro Se Posse keeps the general ideas here; the New York details live in our reference library.

Last checked: October 26, 2026. This page covers general ideas that hold in most courts. Rules differ by state and by court, so look up the rules for yours.

Educational information only. Not legal advice, not a law firm, and no attorney-client relationship. Nothing here tells you what to do in your own case.